In my seminars, women often complain that in bed they don't pret.....

In my seminars, women often complain that they follow the man's instructions in bed and then the lovemaking becomes too fast or too violent. They don't know how to change that and keep participating. They submit to the man's leadership. They become more and more dissatisfied or withdraw from sex life altogether. There are, of course, many counterexamples. But it still seems to be the case for the majority of people. So should the woman lead in bed? What do you think about? Does that have a chance? How are you doing as a man? Who should be in charge in bed?