"If this or that were different, I would be fine!" Do you know that? Do you think your happiness would depend on something changing on the outside? A person or a situation? Especially in the couple relationship, this idea rages tirelessly. If the partner were different, everything would be fine.
How about instead if you were one hundred percent responsible for your own happiness? "Do not seek to change the world," says A Course in Miracles® >, "but change the way you think about the world!" If you look differently at the world, at your partner, at other people, this changed perspective will also change what you see.
Wanting to change the outside world is like sitting in the cinema. There's a movie on there that you don't like. Angrily you run to the front and scratch the screen to change the film. But he just keeps running, undeterred by your exertion, while you hurt yourself and your hands hurt. The only place where the film can be changed is in the projection room in the cinema. Only there you can pause the movie or insert another movie.
What is the projection space in your life? It is your own mind: your opinions and thought patterns, your beliefs. Only there can you really change something. And then what you see on the outside also transforms.
What do you think about that?