The demand-denial game is rampant in many relationships related to sexuality. It actually comes from the sandpit days.
A child picks up an old, wrinkled ball and yells at the top of his lungs, "I'm not giving it up!" all playmates immediately run away from their nicest toys and only want that ugly old ball.
What comes first? Demanding or denying? The chicken or the egg? That does not matter. Both can come first, but immediately bring the opponent onto the stage. The two simply belong together and make life difficult for many couples. For years, many get caught in the vicious circle of the power struggle for what is actually the most beautiful thing in the world.
How can you get out of there? If you really want it, relatively easy. You meet at least 2-3 times a week for a gentle union (see previous posts) of about half an hour each. However, it must remain a gentle union and you must not take advantage of the moment and surprise your partner with normal sex.
A pair of assistants, caught in the demand-denial vicious cycle for years, always scoffed and laughed whenever the topic of "gentle union" came up. It was too boring for them and they just couldn't imagine the good and peace-making effect.
Until they were at the end of their power struggle wits. Then finally they were ready to try it. They set the alarm clock for each other every morning and reunited for half an hour before getting up, and even slept on.
After a short time peace returned. The man became quite relaxed because every morning he came to his "promised land". So he no longer had to beg and chase. And now and then there was also the well-known normal sexuality.
In short: They had already been about to end their relationship and after months of daily gentle union had to confess what an incredible effect this simple thing had. There was never more fighting about sexuality.
Nobody has to believe that - and shouldn't either. But anyone who feels affected can try it for themselves.
A fulfilling relationship is a great happiness. Constant strife wears down the soul and the heart.
Why not invest a little in happiness in love? What do you think about?